Tuesday, August 16, 2011

I Asked ...

Yesterday I lay in bed and asked God to show me where I need work.
Of course, I asked so He did!
I grabbed my coffee and went to catch up on blogs I follow......

The first one I read included a poem on the aging, posted at the bottom of the page....
God knew I needed to read this and 
he used my friend Judy at,  http://justalittlesomethingforyou.blogspot.com ..to make
sure of it!

No, it's not easy to deal with the aging, in fact it can prove to be the most difficult thing ever. We generally end up parenting the parent.  It can be very, very frustrating. I've seen it's very easy for those not caring for an aging  parent to judge those who are!!  You know who you are...

  So many times wanting to say, walk in my shoes for a week and get back to me....

The aging parent doesn't see that you may know what is best for them, they tend to see it as we are telling them what to do.  I trust they feel they are losing more independence if they should adhere to our advice.

My own Mother tells me, " all the ladies sit around and say the same thing, their kids are always telling them what to do as if we can't think for ourselves".

Mom, is that a coincidence you are all about the same age saying the same thing? 
Coincidence that all the Mom's with bossy children happen to live in the same place?

  Why aren't you sitting around talking about how lucky you are that you have children that are always looking out for you?

In another blog I follow the author writes about forgiving, a parent... "experts suggest imagining a parent as an infant, a child of God.  They suggested that this helps heal old sores." 

Praying about this wasn't all I needed to do, I had to forgive and 
I had to take my eyes off of me.........again.  

I am a constant work in progress, thankful for a forgiving God who allows me to start new every morning.

My job is to "ease the days".....and I plan on doing so.

Great Grandma and Khloe

Thanks Judy for responding to His nudge, you have been a gift to me countless times. This is what echos from my heart today...............

"Blessed In Aging"

"Blessed are they who understand
My faltering step and shaking hand
Blessed, who know my ears today,
Must strain to hear the things they say.

Blessed are those who seem to know
My eyes are dim and my mind is slow
Blessed are those who look away
When I spilled the tea that weary day.

Blessed are they who, with cheery smile
Stopped to chat for a little while
Blessed are they who know the way
To bring back memories of yesterday.

Blessed are those who never say
"You've told that story twice today."
Blessed are they who make it known
That I am loved, respected, and not alone.

And blessed are they who will ease the days,
Of my journey home, in loving ways."

~Esther Mary Walker


  1. I so know what you mean. My mama and I are best friends and I am losing her very slowly. We used to talk about everything and now she doesn't want to talk. I have had some criticism from some of my siblings about how I do things, but most haven't offered to do it or even a better way to do it.

    I'm parenting a parent and have difficult adult children. But God is good and has a plan and I am still rejoicing in that!

    But whining sometimes too. :)

  2. I was just talking to a friend about how hard it is getting old, so many things change around us! Some days it is hard to stay up beat, our parents are getting older and harder for them to take care of them selves. Hugs, Diane

  3. I am so there with you....and I love Judy too! My mom says "I'm bossy!" I just smile....it is a hard time for all of us. Like Nancygrayce said...God is good and he has a plan....we are fortunate to have our moms even though it may not be the same relationship. I love my mom even though she is not the same mom I had growing up. I try to make the most of our time together and yes it can be hard!

    Thanks Debi...for being real! Connie

  4. Love this, Debi. All so true.

    (I tried to comment last night, didn't think it went through, but if it did forgive me, I'm old)

  5. Your post really hit home for me! I am starting to go through this with my dad and it is so difficult and sad at the same time. I slowly see the aging process getting hold of him and it is a sad thing to watch but God does indeed have a plan!

  6. Dear Debi,
    Tonight I got to read through this well written post, and from the bottom of my heart, I understand what you wrote. That poem I shared is what I needed so much to read and reflect on. It is not easy! There is so much to learn and remember, but most of all, I pray about my attitude. You are not alone, and I appreciate your honesty. You are a beautiful lady and I am so thankful God had our paths cross via blogland. What a privilege we have to pray for each other as we deal with this sandwich(old and young) generation. Thank you for your kind words.

  7. I too was blessed by the poem Judy shared! My 'moms' are long gone...but I have my dad and my step mom...and others in my life who are aging. I was reminded to 'ease their days'.